Life Coach - Peter Skeels

I have many thoughts and ideas during my days. Some of these thoughts and ideas I remember and some I forget. That's not to say they're gone- they're just not remembered right now.
Several months ago I noticed on several occasions a rather odd occurrence with my mind. The oddity is this- I am aware that I cannot remember something but I cannot remember what it is I cannot remember. I cannot remember the something. It's weird for sure and it seems rather convoluted. I mean I can remember that I can't remember but I can't remember what it is I can't remember? I actually began to laugh out loud at how funny that was. As I concentrated on this problem I began a system to correct the forgetfulness - I guess we'll call it forgetfulness- and my forgetfulness has begun to right itself.
However before we go to how to correct the problem here's another example of forgetfulness: I remember fifteen years or so ago I came up with a saying that went like this- "I keep forgetting I have a bad memory". My memory was so bad I had to write that saying down on a piece of paper and keep it in my wallet because while I couldn't remember the saying I always remembered I had it- the thing I couldn't remember- written on a piece of paper in my wallet. Soon I actually memorized the saying and all was good.
So now on to one of the main techniques I've deployed and that is to use different volumes for specific thoughts that I want to remember over other thoughts that are simply what I call conversational thoughts.
Imagine you're in a room with a dozen people and all of those people are talking at the same monotone level. Some are near and some are farther away so some of the talk you hear are mumbles and some is clearer. I'm sure you'd agree you're more likely to hear and understand the clearer talk. If I travel around the room the voices I could hear clearly before will become more muffled as I move away and those that were muffled before will become clearer as I get nearer.
So taking this approach I began thinking louder with some specific thoughts. For instance I would go into my office for a specific reason and then once there I'd forget why I had gone to my office. Or I'd be taking my dog for a walk and while I remembered several times not to forget his poop pickup bags I'd leave the house only to have to come back for the bags. Why was this I kept wondering. So I began listening to myself and what I noticed was that all the thoughts and conversations were happening at the monotone levels exactly like the room I described above. The main difference with my mind is that I can choose which thoughts I want to hear and remember over the more simply conversational thoughts. So for instance if my thought is I want to go into the kitchen for water and it's at the same sound level as the following thoughts of "I wonder when I can go fishing again and I should check the tide charts" as I walk to the kitchen I might remember that last thought to check the tide charts but forget the two thoughts before that one. I arrive at the kitchen and remember I came there for a reason but I cannot remember the reason.
So I started doing this- I started saying the thought I wanted to remember louder in my mind. So instead of simply thinking I'll go get some water (the drinking water is always in the kitchen when I'm home as I use the filtered water from the fridge) I now think I'LL GO GET SOME WATER and as if by magic I get to the kitchen and get my water without forgetting.
I started doing this about two months ago and the overall effect is that now my mind's conversations have a rising and falling tonal sound much like the conversations between groups of people have louder and softer tones and those who speak while others listen and vice versa. Also it is rather like raising a child or house training a puppy and after you've said the same thing ten times and they're not listening or remembering what you said you simply raise your voice out of frustration and again as if by magic they hear you and pay attention and remember what you said. Why? Is it because your tone level is now greater than the tone level in their own mind?
So if you're having issues with remembering things don't get frustrated with yourself or become a victim to your forgetfulness but rather do something about it. Try simply talking louder to yourself. Demand that you not forget. Don't label your forgetfulness and become a victim to the label. Make demands on yourself. It's fine and it will not hurt you I promise. Yes it does require some attention to detail and some concentration and some work but it's fun and you'll enjoy the new freedom. You'll soon learn how to control your thoughts and your mind will serve you much better!!
I guess the mind can be a trickster and it's better to approach a trickster with humor and intelligence. I'm pretty sure those are two of the traits the trickster uses.